Methods to Teach Children with ADHD how to Introduce themselves to their Peers

Introducing oneself might be a skill that you think is something only adults should have within their repertoire. It is just as important for a child with ADHD to know how to introduce himself to others as it is for an adult to do so. The reason that

it is so important for a child with ADHD to do so is that if he does not introduce himself, he will feel that he does not know anyone in that situation, and he will not! It is no wonder why children with ADHD often feel that they are on the periphery of social interaction.

When children with ADHD feel isolated, they may exhibit socially inappropriate behavior. When a child with ADHD exhibits one socially inappropriate behavior, that behavior often sets off other socially inappropriate behaviors. Feeling isolated

and apart from a group of people might be a reason that a child with ADHD may exhibit socially inappropriate behavior. However, if he introduces himself, he may avoid that empty feeling of isolation. The social skill of introducing oneself may
incur some anxiety. However, the social isolation that results from not doing so is more painful.

The child with ADHD whom I observed in New England had a great deal of anxiety. He especially became anxious when he did not feel that he was familiar with the people who were interacting in close proximity to him. When I first met him, his mom was talking to me and had not introduced him to me as of yet. By the time she got around to introductions, he was already running in circles around us, jumping up and down and pulling on his mom’s dress.

A good thing for her to do before she got into any complex discussion with me might have been to whisper to him, “Michael, this lady is Dr. Rapoport. Tell her your name.” If he was too anxious to tell me his name, she could have just said “Say hello to her.” Greetings are a very important skill for children with ADHD to learn. Instead of greeting an oncoming person, children with ADHD or similar disorders seem to look down at their feet when they pass someone in the hall, for example.

 It is very important to teach a child with ADHD what to do after the initial nonverbal or verbal interaction, and that is to introduce himself to the other person. Make this task as simple as possible by teaching him to turn his body to the person, as I have said before, and then say his first and last name. For example, have the child with ADHD say, “Hi, my name is John Smith.” This social skill among others must be practiced. Using puppets is a good way for children to take on the role of another person and practice the social skill of introducing themselves.

One puppet says: “Hi, my name is Ellen Jones.” Then, hopefully, the other puppet says, “Hi, my name is Bill Evans.” You can have everyone in the classroom practice this skill. They can either use real puppets or paper bag puppets. If the child with ADHD has difficulty role playing using the puppets, then you can try finger puppets. If he still has too much anxiety to talk through role playing with puppets, you can ask him to draw the two people involved in the introduction.

The teacher can draw bubbles and write words within them herself, or have the child with ADHD write the words in the bubbles. Additionally, the teacher can place pictures within the bubbles for young children who cannot write. The best picture to use, of course, which is so easy with today’s digital photography, is the child’s own picture. (Please obtain permission from the child’s parents before you use any pictures of the child to teach him social skills!) If the child does not want to use his own picture, you can use pictures from magazines that you can glue onto craft sticks. Believe me, there are many ways to show a child with ADHD an image that will affect him in a way so he can learn to introduce himself to others, especially to other children. When they know how to introduce themselves to other

people, they can begin to learn to initiate conversations.