It may be anxiety provoking to talk to your children
about the atrocity that befell Uvalde, Texas yesterday. However, it is so
important they receive the correct information so they do not become anxious
about that kind of situation happening at their school. First of all, find a place
where you can have a conversation with your children where they cannot easily
leave, for example, your car. You want to ensure that they pay the utmost
attention to what you are telling them.
Second of all, assure them that they are safe in
their school. Explain to them that precautions have been taken in their school
to guard against any possible problem. Discuss the specific things that have
been implemented.
Third of all, before you give them any real time
information, see if they have heard anything about the situation and exactly
what they have heard. Older children, especially read and hear information on
social media. They could be looking at a science video on YouTube and something
could pop up about what has happened.
Next, tell the younger children brief information
that is not specifically detailed. This information should reflect what they
already know, however. Observe their behavior to see if it reflects anxiety. Are
they drawing excessively or involved in some activity that is atypical for
them. Are they doing that activity obsessively?
Limit access to social media or television temporarily
with older children, so they do not hear anything about the violent situation
that occurred before you have had a chance to talk with them about it. You may
have more detailed and more complex conversations with your older children. Do
not pressure your children to talk about the violent situation that has
occurred recently. Permit them to discuss it as much or as little as they
desire. Use open-ended questions when you talk to them. In that way, you will
encourage them to talk more freely than if they have to answer more pointed,
directed questions.
If possible, continue with your normal, everyday activities.
If your children know that their lives will be predictable and continue onward,
they will be much more reassured.
