The idea of helping your child to manage his own frustrations seems simple enough. You teach him how to take deep breaths, how to use self-talk or other calming mechanisms. What do you tell your child about your behavior if it is more erratic than usual, due to the fact that you have been recently laid off from your job?
Tell him the truth with as much information that you feel he needs to know in order to understand how you feel. Clearly, you will tell a six year old a different type of information than you would tell a 13 year old. If you have been short-tempered and even angry, your child needs to know that those behaviors have nothing to do with him.
Our kids have been reprimanded, criticized and demeaned their whole lives by people who do not understand the symptoms associated with ADHD. Once again, it is vital that your child knows that if you react to him in ways that upset him, the reason for your behavior is related to your own frustration in terms of being out of job, and is not related to his behavior.
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